Patience dating single dad
I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely (you will end up selling your engagement ring anyway with those guys).
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
I am also far less critical of other people, including men. 3) You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood.
So many disappointments, self-blame, and broken hearts. Since becoming a single mother I have found that I am so much less judgmental of myself. 1) you became a parent, which will blow your mind, heart and life in incredible ways, and 2) you’ve found yourself single after a serious longterm relationship.
If you make her down's an issue, so will everyone else.
People often make decisions out of fear and ignorance...perhaps try to find out during the getting to know each other phase how comfortable they are with persons with disabilities and weed them out as necessary.
I haven't found much success in groups either because I've never met a single dad at one of them.. It's always been mom's and dad's together or just mom's..
I think there are probably women out there that will date you of course, but will they have what it takes to stay? For all the times I've been told by people, "I couldn't do what you do, or I wouldn't be able to handle a special needs child or adult", my thoughts are that the average person would flee.
Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? People are attracted to these single-mom qualities in a real, meaningful way. Now, I have reached many milestones in my career, relationships, and inner life.
My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.
Then again there are some women who have a lot of patience and wouldn't mind at all to date someone who has a child that is a special needs child.